It was in the year 1978. I was studying in the 12th standard when a family came from Tamil Nadu seeking a bride for one of my relatives. They also happened to be our distant relatives ( maybe seventh or eighth link from my maternal side in the family tree). We soon heard that the bridegroom was interested in the chirpy bubbly girl who was running to a maths tuition class ( it happened to be me!) that was from where the discussions between the two families started.
I was 17 when I met Mr. Ravikumar who was 26. When my parents informed me that the bridegroom was interested in marrying me I was quite open to the idea of marriage. I liked the bridegroom. He was tall, dark and handsome and had a great smile!! I was quite bold however to say that I had some demands / CONDITIONS for marriage.
1) The person has to be mandatory, a born again Christian
2) The person has to necessarily be a teetotaler
3) I must be attracted to him physically.
Mr Ravikumar claimed to have cleared all these three criteria and so I agreed to marry him. We got
talking with each other. Ideas of compatibility were woven into the conversation. There was not even a iota of negative thought.
I was not greatly involved in the wedding preparations. My parents designed the card, booked the reception hall, planned the menu, invited guests… it was herculean task for them as they did everything they thought would be the best for themselves and everyone.in was truly arranged.. all I had to do was get married in church .
It was only after marriage I understand what married life and starting a family meant as the bridegrooms family started doling out their role expectations of a daughter in law.
It is 36 years now and life has been happy, sad, difficult, overwhelming and satisfying.
“expectations lead to disappointments. Acceptance of the person helps one to evolve strategies to help
find solutions to cope’". This is what I have learnt over the years and would like to share with those who are preparing for marriage.
Monday, August 3, 2015
His ways are higher than ours - Davidson and Sharon
I am Davidson. Me and my wife Sharon have been married since June 29th 2012. This is a testimony of how God United us both.
God's plan in each of our lives are unique and special. We sometimes may not be able to understand why certain incidents happen in each of our lives, why things delay .
Me and my wife knew each other from childhood yet we have never spoken much.Never have we imagined what God had kept in store for our lives. The talk about finding the right girl had started at my home when I reached 27.I was busy with my career and Sharon was doing her undergrad. In our culture, parents, our aunts and elders search for the right girl. Several cousins mentioned for me several profiles of eligible brides,but I was hesitant to take the next step.Things kept getting delayed. We prayed about it and that's when God revealed it through a prophesy to a lady in a prayer meeting about the one I am to marry. She had just graduated from college and that's when I realized the reason I had to wait a few years for my marriage. It was in His time that God directed my aunt and mum to take Sharon's profile into consideration.They kept her profile in prayers and God revealed them that she was the one for me.Just as it's written in Ecclesiastes 3 :11 " He hath made every thing beautiful in His time", every piece of our life falls in its place like a puzzle in His time.
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